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About Domestic Violence

Are you being abused?

Domestic violence is defined by the Home Office as

"any violence between current and former partners in an intimate relationship, wherever the violence occurs. The violence may include physical, sexual, emotional and financial abuse."

Domestic violence occurs across society regardless of age, gender, race, sexuality, wealth and geography.

There are a number of different definitions of domestic violence, many of which use the term ‘Abuse’ rather than ‘Violence’. The reason for this is that it is felt that ‘abuse’ more widely captures the range of behaviours which are used within intimate relationships as forms of power and control, which are often not just physical.

Love or Control?

Abuse or violence in a relationship is about a pattern of behaviour that one person uses against another to intimidate them and to get them to do what THEY want.

But many people don't realise that this sort of behaviour described is actually abusive. Emotional, financial or sexual abuse can be just as physical violence. Even when severe abuse is taking place, jealous and possessive behaviour can be mistaken for love. But this kind of treatment is about control, not love.

Facts & Figures

1 in 4 women are expected to experience Domestic Abuse at some point in their lifetime.

24% of all reported violent crimes are Domestic Violence incidents.

On average, 2 women each week are killed by their partner or former partner

11% of men are likely to be victims of repeated incidents of domestic abuse

On average a woman will have suffered 35 attacks before calling the police.

Around 750,000 children are expected to live in households involving Domestic Abuse each year.

25% of all Child Line phone calls are from children who live with Domestic Abuse.

45% of rapes are committed by the victim’s partner.

The estimated total cost of domestic abuse to society in monetary terms is £23 billion per annum.

Keeping Safe

If you are in danger, you should contact the Police on 999 and try to get out of your home.  Stay near a door and avoid the kitchen.

If you are able to plan to leave

Collect and have available the telephone numbers you will need in an emergency such as local refuge provider, GP, Social Worker, Local Authority Housing Office, Solicitor.Include telephone numbers of friends or family you feel you could contact. Make a mental note of them if you feel writing them down will endanger you.

Teach your children to call 999 in an emergency, and what they would need to say. For example their full name, address and telephone number.

If you have a mobile, try to keep it with you at all times. If you have a car, keep a set of keys in a place where you can easily get hold of them. Ensure you have sufficient prescribed medication if appropriate.

Try to find ways keep some money to one side for use in emergencies, such as transport fares.

Rehearse an escape plan for you and your children to leave the house as safely as possible, and be prepared to leave in an emergency.

Keep an emergency bag packed and ready to take. Collect important and identification documents gathered together. You should try to include birth certificates, passports, bank account details, evidence of welfare benefits and housing documents

Online Activity

Many browser types have features that display recently visited sites. Your partner could discover your online activities. They may also be suspicious if you have taken steps to cover your tracks. The safest way to find information on the Internet would be at a local library, a friend’s house or at work. You should also take care if your abuser has access to your email account.

You can clear your history or empty your cache file in your browser’s settings. It may also be helpful to turn off ‘inline autocomplete’ – this completes the name of a web page once you’ve started to type the first few letters, if you’ve visited that site before.

Internet Explorer

Open the Tools menu

Select  Internet Options

Select General tab – under Browsing History, click on Delete

You will then see a new window – make sure Temporary Internet Files and History are ticked

Private Browsing is an alternative way to browse the internet. By using Private Browsing your actions online will not be kept in the browser’s history. This can be a quick and easy way to protect yourself when you are online.

Internet Explorer

Open the Safety menu

Select InPrivate Browsing

Or Press the following keys on the keyboard

Ctrl + Shift + P


The Effects of Domestic Violence on Mothers and their Young Children and the Development and Evaluation of Groupwork with these Families

(A thesis submitted to the University of Manchester by Dr Lynda Warren Dodd)

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Lines are staffed Monday to Thursday from 9am to 5pm and Friday 9am - 4:30pm there is an answerphone outside of these hours.

If we are unable to answer your call, or you need support outside of these hours, you should contact the national domestic abuse helpline on: 0808 2000 247

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